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Feedback wanted: How to compromise when one travel partner wants to Couchsurf, but the other doesn't?

(I considered posting this in r/travel, but that subreddit is focused on trip photos and trip reports. I guess my question does involve semi-solo travel...)

My friend and I have booked our tickets for our next backpacking Europe. We will be spending multiple days in 4 different cities, mostly in Central and Eastern Europe.

My friend is an experienced Couchsurfer and loves the CS community. I have never surfed or even hosted (I don't even have an actual couch!) and said that I am willing to surf in 1 out of the 4 cities, which I feel is a compromise***. Now that the costs of our trip are adding up, she is suddenly more interested in surfing. Average cost of lodging is about $40 per night.

I would like r/solotravel's insight on the following: my suggested compromise is that we split off in terms of lodging, and meet up for meals and activities. I would stay in a hostel where I can either keep to myself or be social, and she will be able to have her CS experience. However, I appear to have offended her (radio silence in the last 24 hours).

Is suggesting splitting off and travelling semi-solo an unreasonable compromise when we have already committed to travelling together? And am I being unreasonable in writing off CS as an option for myself? I'm willing to surf 1 out of 4 cities, but I want to stand up for my own comfort and security, even if it costs $40 per night.

Our personalities are very similar in that we are both analytical, thoughtful, and sensitive. I think I have offended her with the semi-solo suggestion given her silence and non-reply to texts. I think she simply does not know how to respond. I understand that these issues will come up and cause friction, but I'd rather tackle them now and get some additional insight before I allow them to build.

Thoughts?

***If it matters, my reasons for not wanting to surf are that (1) I do not want to feel obligated to socially engage with my host, (2) I would rather pay for a safe/secure place in a businesslike way than make a new "friend," (3) I can afford a hostel room or AirBNB and I would rather put my tourist dollars into the hands of a local businessperson, and (4) I would prefer a hostel or AirBNB that provides a clear and certain list of amenities.



Submitted May 16, 2018 at 06:31PM by yellowpolish https://ift.tt/2wPBtaI

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